imagine still using "monopoly on violence" as your preferred definition of the state.
Since the rise of capitalism, the need to use violence on the majority of the population has drastically decreased. Conformity to the authority of the state is almost entirely assured by the coercion of capitalist markets.
And as capitalist power has risen, the state solidified control by alienating people from the ability to self-govern
It is the monopoly on governance that should be central to critiques of the state, not violence.